To summarise this habit, I would put it as taking control of yourself. Once you are able to take control of you emotions, instead of allowing yourself to be trapped by them, you can breach the walls of your own self perceived limitations and find whole new realms of freedom.
Stimulus and response
Stimuli -> Choice -> Response
Everyday we encounter stimuli, an interaction with an external force, which could be either positive or negative. The nature and intensity of such experiences vary, such as meeting being served by an unpleasant waiter or breaking a leg. Such stimuli would lead to a response. What we must realise is there is a moment in between the stimuli and the response where we as rational humans have a moment to choose, a freedom of choice that we have every right to exercise. We may not be able to determine the physical outcome, but we can determine how the outcome relates to us.
The opposite of such a mindset is determinism, where one believes that all the cognitive and psychological programming a person has is developed at birth, and thereafter he is stuck in that mode. For example, if my parents had a bad temper, then I would inherit a bad temper, and that's that. In other words, in all interactions, I am merely reactive, not proactive.
However, proactivity breaks down that paradigm. Self-awareness, imagination, conscience and independent will allow us to take control of our responses to positive and negative experiences, which ultimately determine what we learn and how we grow from those encounters.
Taking the initiative
Being proactive also involves us being aware of our situation and knowing how to make the best of it. For example, if you know that your upper body strength is low, or your locking is not very tight, you have to options. The first is to tell yourself: Why is the team not training me? The second option is to say: Alright, I need to work on this skill. How or what can I do to find time and support to improve myself? The first response is of one being acted upon, and the second response is of one who chooses to act. Who will get better?
In many of the situations we find ourselves in, you would be surprised in how many decisions were yours to make that led up to that final outcome. If you lay back and blame the environment, you would get a fleeting sense of self justification, but you would still be deeply unhappy of you position. Take control!
The circle of concern
The large circle encompasses things that affect us, and the smaller circle represents what we can do about it. In the team, there are some things we can influence and others we cannot. However, this picture is varying. There are many ways that you can expand, or contract, your circle of influence. For example, if the team has lost motivation due to a bad loss, the exco can choose to be unmotivated as well, and this would cause respect to be lost and their circle of influence would shrink. However, if they were to keep a positive mindset and train hard, inspiring their team mates, they would earn respect, and their circle of influence expands. We must strive to expand our circles of influence to better the situations around us, so that we can achieve a higher goal together.
Cheer Hard
Alpha Joe
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